Thousands or even millions of Vietnamese Brides are looking for Vietnamese American husbands (Viet Kieu My) at either through the introduction from friends or relatives or online dating services, pleasure or pain, happy or sad? Based on my own experience of getting married with a Vietkieu my in USA, I want to share the truth information about my situation and of others that I have known of.

It is not what you thought it was in the United States of America. This is the truth. The basic needs of life in USA are too high. On average locations like Orange County in California, Northern Virginia, New York, the monthly expense for a family with two young kids is probably 3,000 dollars. The average salary for a blue color worker is between $1,500 to $2,500. So, the total salary for both husband and wife is about $3,000 to $5,000. If you look at the expense for a month, then you will see the close number for the expense and the income. For those who have Bachelor or Master degree, their salary is between $40,000 (students just graduated) to $120,000 (with more than 10 years of experience) a year. These Vietnam American people can save more money than blue color workers.

Vietnamese Brides & Vietnamese American Husbands (Lay Chong Viet Kieu o My)

After reuniting with her husband and began to face the life in America, she may has the outdoor feeling. Life in America is not too easy and simple as she thought. Single women in Vietnam get married with Vietnamese husbands in USA have the same feeling, homesick. This is very important for those who don’t have strong mind, they may not stand on that. When I first came to America, I missed my parents and siblings so much.

For those Vietnamese women who get married with Viet Kieu My because they want to help their poor family in Viet Nam, they may feel stronger and powerful. They have lived in a poor condition so they might be stronger because they can sacrifice themselves to help parents and siblings in Vietnam. For those who are rich in Vietnam, they may be disappointed when coming to USA. There are many new things in life they need to learn, drive a car, how to use in-house machines, English, get a job, and so on. In this country, I had to wait until the item on sale to buy it that I never had waited for that long by the time I was in Vietnam. However, I learned how to save money and spend money appropriately.

When I first came to USA, I didn’t know anything about here. I was born in a not so poor family so I didn’t know much about doing housework. When I came here, I started learning everything I could. I even worked in a Vietnamese restaurant as a Waitress for 9 months. After that, I got a better job as a cashier at 7-Eleven fast food restaurant. Now, I am a teller in a bank. We have two kids now and we are doing just fine. When I talk to my parents in Vietnam and tell them about my situation. They are proud of me. They can’t believe they eyes that I can handle multiple tasks in a day. Every day, I wake up in the morning, take my kids to school, drive to work for 8 hours, go home and prepare dinner. Anyway, I get used to it. When I visited my sister’ family in Vietnam last year, she had a maid who can help her everything in the house like cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids, and etc. She didn’t work but just stayed home. I didn’t feel sad or happy, I handle all of these house errands by myself in America and I work full time too. Anyway, that’s the life in America.

So, there are many expenses required to have an American life. It takes time to settle in and get used to it. You will face the fast paced lifestyle in the United States of America.

So, Vietnamese Brides get married with Viet Kieu My, pleasure or pain? It is up to you to think and tell. I just wrote what I experienced about my own life of getting married with an Vietnamese American husband.

Thuy Huong